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Essay - Part 2: Biblical marriage is a union of 2 forgivers

Sep 13, 2024

If you think the Build Back Better, Bidenomics, inflation policies are working, then you should vote for Kamala Harris. But if you want things to change, you should fire the ones who messed everything up.

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President Joe Biden momentarily donned a Trump hat while visiting a fire station in Shanksville, Pennsylvania. It was September 11, the 23rd anniversary of 9-11, when Biden gave a hat with a presidential seal to a Trump supporter who, in turn, handed Biden his Trump hat. After a little coaxing from people in attendance, Biden placed the Trump hat on over the hat he was already wearing and smiled ear to ear.

Then Biden took off the Trump hat and left taking the hat with him. According to Factcheck.org, “White House spokesman Andrew Bates later described the move as a gesture of unity.”

But when you’re campaigning for Harris, wearing a Trump hat is not a good look.

PART 2 - MARRIAGE: A UNION OF 2 FORGIVERS

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” - Ephesians 5:25.

Long ago, I knew a fun-loving couple who appeared to be in love. But they had a disturbing habit. They publicly teased one another. Occasional good-natured teasing can be funny. But there is a fine line between teasing and put-downs. Their steady diet of snarky remarks became a cancer in their relationship and within five years, they were divorced. Their marriage died from a thousand tiny cuts.

Psychologists Cliff Nortarius and Howard Markman studied newlyweds over the first decade of marriage and they discovered that couples who stayed together, uttered 5 or fewer put-downs in every 100 comments to each other. But couples who split up verbally jabbed their spouse 10 or more out of every 100 comments.

I confess that I'm naturally sarcastic. It’s a job requirement for an editorial cartoonist. And I hate to admit but that there have been times when my wife has been on the receiving end of my sarcasm. What do I do then? Ask for her forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:26-27 (NLT) says, “And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.”

Everyone gets angry, but don’t sin by letting anger control you. Husbands, forgive your wife, just as God, for Christ’s sake, forgave you.

There is a story about a man who said that when his wife gets angry she gets “historical.” His friend said, “don’t you mean, hysterical?” The man replied, “No, I mean historical. She brings up everything I ever did.”

Husbands, if you remind your wife of her past sins, then you haven’t really forgiven her. Notice that the verse says that holding on to anger, gives the devil a “foothold.” Don’t forget that the devil wants to destroy your marriage. But forgiveness will break the devil’s foothold in your marriage.

Remember this, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Ephesians 5:28-29 says, “In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body.”

Men, just as you care and feed for your own bodies, take care of your wife’s needs, one of which is to be appreciated. She needs to hear loving words from you. So verbalize to her daily about how much you appreciate her companionship, her work, her talents, her beauty (both inside and out). Now, here are 6 communication tips that will foster healthy marriage.

Speak truth in love.
Consider the effect of your words before speaking.
Be careful of the tone of your voice and your body language. Saying ‘I love you’ in the wrong manner can be perceived as insincere.
Admit when you fail and ask for forgiveness. A successful marriage is a union of two forgivers.
Compliment your wife often. Treat her with love and you’ll have a marriage that lasts a lifetime.
Tell your wife that you love her and do it everyday. She is God’s gift to you, so don’t take her for granted but treat her as your treasure.

COMING THIS FRIDAY - PART 3: HOW TO GET THAT LOVIN’ FEELING AGAIN

INTERVIEW

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RIGHT LINKS

Townhall - Matt Vespa: NAACP poll is brutal for Kamala Harris.

Townhall - Matt Vespa: Major newspapers sanitize second Trump assassination attempt since it makes Dems look bad.

Townhall - Rebecca Downs: POLITICO out with truly awful take after second assassination attempt against Trump.

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Gary Varvel: Definition of insanity and Biden's cap

Essay - Part 2: Biblical marriage is a union of 2 forgivers

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PART 2 - MARRIAGE: A UNION OF 2 FORGIVERS

COMING THIS FRIDAY - PART 3: HOW TO GET THAT LOVIN’ FEELING AGAIN

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DISCIPLES IN THE MOONLIGHT

NEED A SPEAKER FOR YOUR GROUP?

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